💥#BOOM One of the most important cultures of the Igbo people before marrying into a family is ‘Iju ese’

💥#BOOM One of the most important cultures of the Igbo people before marrying into a family is ‘Iju ese’

💥#BOOM One of the most important cultures of the Igbo people before marrying into a family is ‘Iju ese’.

Iju ese translates to making enquiries or a background checkup about where one is getting married to.

Iju ese is often carried out by both members of the intending couple.

These members( two or more persons) travels to the village of their intending son or daughter-in-law.

They meet random people and ask about the family where their intending in law hails from.

The following are examples of questions they ask;

1. Whether the family has a streak of m.adness.
2. Whether they have a pattern of de. ath ( like premature de.ath)
3. Whether stea.ling is in their blood
4. The caste system they belongs to; whether Nwadiala, Osu, Ume or Ohu.
5. Whether they have a particular sickness in their lineage.
6. How they care for their spouse.

Whatever information they get, they take it to the umunna who weighs it to know if they will take them as inlaws.

The Igbo people don’t believe that marriage is between two lovers who can’t do without themselves.

Mba! Marriage is a very serious business, It goes beyond to lover birds.

Marriage is between two families and not just two individuals.

These days, this tradition is no more as effective as it is used to be due to civilization.

Some young Igbo’s now have a court wedding in the City and come back after many years to do their traditional marriage.

The Igbo elders looks at the negligence of ‘Iju ese’ with great disdain.

It is believed to be one of the contributing factors to a non-lasting marriage amongst some of the Igbos.

Since they know nothing of whom they are doing ‘forever’ with.

Many women has ended up marrying someone else husband because they neglected ‘Iju ese’

Same with men, some end up marrying single mothers without knowing.

Credit: BY ROYAL KISS