One of the most important lessons I’ve learned as a man is this—before you go chasing after women, you need to get your life in order.

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned as a man is this—before you go chasing after women, you need to get your life in order.

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned as a man is this—before you go chasing after women, you need to get your life in order.

Society has sold young men a lie. We are told to focus on getting women, chasing relationships, and making “moves” before we even understand who we are or where we are going.

No quality woman wants to settle with a man who is lost, unstable, and unable to lead himself.

If you’re 22, 23, 24, 25 and your biggest priority is chasing women instead of learning how to build yourself, run a business, make money, and grow as a man—you’re playing the wrong game.

A man’s first mission should be his personal development.

Get your finances in order, improve your skills, build a strong mind, and create a vision for your life.

Women will come as a byproduct of that growth.

David Deida, in The Way of the Superior Man, says:

“If a man’s priority is his woman more than his purpose, he will weaken himself, his woman, and the relationship.”

Think about that. A man who lacks direction will never command respect.

So before you start running after women, run after your own potential first. Get your house in order.

Master your craft. Build something valuable. And watch how life transforms for you.

If you do this, you won’t need to chase. The right people—the right women—will naturally be drawn to you.